A Guide To Aphrodisiacs

Aphrodisiacs are sexual stimulants used for centuries by all cultures to heighten sexual desires. The idea is not new or a strange one. We come into contact with it everyday, although in a much subtler form.


The most primitive form of natural sexual stimulant is the scent of smell from the human body. Odors and subliminal scents from males and females act as natural sex stimuli which is unconsciously picked up by the brain and stimulates the production of mood altering hormones. Animals use scent too to indicate when they are ready to mate.

Aphrodisiacs were first concocted to treat sexual anxieties and then to increase fertility for human procreation. Since then, they were recognized for their properties of boosting sexual desires and energy. The Chinese were one of the earlier known civilizations to use natural herbs and roots as aphrodisiacs. However, every culture have their own local aphrodisiacs made from local ingredients. Natural aphrodisiacs are derived from plants and herbs, ginseng, yohimbe, damiana, and certain animal parts. Non-natural are made from chemical substances or scented with pheromones (or simply drugs). Most aphrodisiacs nowadays combine both natural and artificial ingredients (ie vitamin enriched herbal recipes).

Types of Aphrodisiacs

Aphrodisiacs function as sexual stimulants in two principal ways. The first is to achieve a healthy well-being with more energy, more vitality, and mental alertness. The goal is that a strong healthy physique (or strong erections) will also make us more sexually active. The second is to create a stronger sex drive by stimulating the mind and creating the desire for sex. This is done by ingesting certain foods that stimulate the release of mood-altering hormones. There has been a much scientific debate about the effectiveness of aphrodisiacs to alter a person’s mood or whether the effect is self-imagined. Although anti-depressants or caffeine can affect a person’s mood, there isn’t a magic drug which can create an immediate sexual urge like the mythical Spanish Fly. But taken regularly and with proper nutrition, foods can indeed enhance the libido and remedy low sex drives.


A herbal ingredient extracted from the Corynanthe Yohimbe bark, a tropical tree which grows wild in certain parts of Africa. It’s one of the most popular ingredients used in aphrodisiacs and has been used for centuries as a tonic to enhance sexual pleasure. Besides being used to enhance sexual performance, there are also many other health benefits. Among them, they are used as anti-depressants, for the prevention of heart attacks, increased mental alertness, and for a more balanced overall health. Yohimbe is usually taken with Saw Palmetto and Ginseng as a remedy for men and women with low sex drive.

Yohimbe is available today in packaged capsules from pharmacies and drugstores. Caution is advised as it may cause side effects.


Damiana (Turnera aphrodisiaca) is extracted from the leaf of a plant found in Mexico and South America. Consumed by herbalists as tea, Damiana is classified as a nervine tonic which has many health benefits. It is taken by women either as a sexual stimulant, or to treat certain female disorders related to the reproductive system. With proper exercise and diet, Damiana is also used to treat infertility in women. It is also commonly used by both, men and women to stimulate a stronger sex drive.

Deer Velvet

Deer Velvet is taken from the growing antlers of a deer. The deer sheds and regrows its antlers each year, during which time the deer sports short furry hair resembling velvet; and hence the name. Deer Velvet has been used for more than 2000 years as a medicinal health tonic. Similar in benefits to the ginseng, deer velvet is taken as a rejuvenating tonic for enhanced overall health, to aid in fertility and to create a heightened sexual interest. It is available in capsule form.


The most widely known, ginseng has been used for centuries in Asia as an aphrodisiac or tonic for well-being. They are widely taken with other herbal supplements as a stimulant and energy booster. There were reports suggesting that ginseng has effects on hormones and may act like a hormone itself. Studies are still ongoing for its potential as an anti-cancer agent. The price of the root runs anywhere from $30 to $600 per pound and in the U.S. ginseng is a multi-million dollar industry. You can read more about Ginseng here. Besides the raw root, ginseng extract is also available in capsule form from pharmacies or drug stores.


Commercially marketed as an aphrodisiac to increase sex drive, Boom is a natural blend combining Yohimbe, Ginseng, Deer Velvet, and enriched with amino acids. It is taken to increase sexual desire and performance and also helps with erectile dysfunction. Boom is taken orally as sachets containing chocolate flavored powder.

Vuka Vuka

Vuka Vuka is from Africa, a herbal alternative to Viagra and aphrodisiac used to enhance sexual performance instantly. I don’t know what to make of it but you can read all about it here. It was also featured on CNN, BBC and The Guardian, so there might be some basis for it.

Spanish Fly

Let’s clear this myth once and for all. The story about this mystical “Spanish Fly” began in a locker room when some teenager slipped the drug to his unsuspecting date and was whipped into an uncontrollable sexual frenzy. The tale caught on (as with lots of hot gossips) and the adult industry chanced on the opportunity of creating a million dollar buying frenzy. The term Spanish fly was marketed as an aphrodisiac to create instant sex drives. The people loved the idea (at least some of them did), the pornographers promoted it, the internet proliferated the idea and the cash came rolling in. Until today, you can still see it marketed as an instant remedy for sexual desires on certain online stores. That’s the myth.

Now the facts. The boring part. Spanish Fly got its name from a dried crushed body of a beetle known as Cantharis Vesicatoria. It has certain medical applications as a diuretic. The kidneys excrete a substance known as Cantharidin to stimulate urination. The Spanish Fly contains Cantharidin and hence its application as a diuretic. It works by irritating the urinary tract and causes an increased blood flow to the groin area. Contrary to popular belief, this itching in women does not whip them into a sexual frenzy, but it is in fact quite the opposite. In men, the increased blood flow causes sustained painful erection not associated with sexual desire.

So in 1996, the FDA took on a study and confirmed that the drug has no sexual benefits. But the adult industry continues to sell the idea. Afterall, myth sells better than facts. The Spanish Fly marketed these days usually contain ginseng. Carefully study the ingredients and you will find they don’t contain Cantharidin, the substance in Spanish Fly and hence it does not work. I hope not, otherwise, men will just end up with painful erections.

An Introduction To BDSM And Types Of Toys For BDSM Play

BDSM stands for Bondage & Dominance, Sadism & Masochism. Simply put, it is the erotic pleasure from consensual inflicting or submitting to physical abuse. BDSM is for people who enjoy sexual stimulation outside of the common sexual practices. It should not be confused with abuse. BDSM is very much under control and totally voluntary with both partners enjoying and complementing each other’s role as akin in a Ying and Yang.

Introduction to BDSM

BDSM play can be segregated into two areas. Bondage & Dominance and Sadism & Masochism. Bondage & Dominance is akin to a master/slave fantasy role. It typically involves one partner submitting to the other in a sexually dominating way. The dominant partner is sometimes referred to as “top” while the submissive partner is referred as “bottom”. Some people enjoy the excitement of being in control and the turn-on of taking whatever you want. For the submissive partner, being vulnerable is not only a hot thing, but to give up control and totally lose responsibility further reinforces the trust and affection during BDSM plays. For both partners, BDSM is the thrill of the game of taking and giving, controlling and being controlled and ultimately total satisfaction.

Sadism & Masochism although akin to B&D;, is seen in a different context in that giving and receiving pain is part of the stimulation. Administered very skillfully and combined with other senses such as blindfolds and/or bondage, pain then becomes an overwhelmingly powerful stimulation which actually becomes pleasure. It can be hard to imagine how pain can be transmuted to pleasure. Pain by itself is just that pain. But when combined with strong sexual sensations, such as the peak emotions during an intense orgasm, the senses of pain and pleasure is mixed that pain actually becomes pleasure.

BDSM play can involve costumes with the top tying the bottom using all kinds of restraints. Blindfolds, whips, canes, nipple clamps, handcuffs, are all designed for BDSM play.


BDSM toys encompasses Bondage Gear and S&M; toys. Bondage gear inhibits freedom of movement and can be worn on the body such as handcuffs or used as restraining equipment such as cages. S&M; toys are designed to inflict pain to a certain degree such as whips, canes, and clamps. The varieties of BDSM toys is huge and this list is by no means exhaustive. Sometimes there can be overlapping of functions. Photographs are provided for better illustration.

Jackets & Harnesses

Specialized clothing worn over the body which is made of leather, latex, metal or a combination to prevent freedom of physical movement. They can be used on different parts of the body. Hoods and muzzles can be worn over the head. Hand jackets, straight jackets, leg, arm, ankle and wrist binders are used on other parts of the body. No BDSM is complete without some kind of bondage. View a sample of BDSM binders

Leashes, Collars and Gags

Leashes consist of a restraint attached to a rope or chain. They can be worn on the neck, wrists, ankles, groin, or other parts of the body. Collars are worn on the neck. They usually come with D-rings so that chains or ropes can be fastened and pulled around during BDSM play. Gags for BDSM play are mouth gags or ball gags. View a sample of leashes, collars, and gags here.


We are normally accustomed to the handcuffs used by law enforcement personnel. Cuffs for BDSM play extend to leg cuffs, wrist, ankle, thigh, and knee cuffs. They can be used as an attchment to bed frames, spreader bars, etc. BDSM cuffs can be made of metal, plastic, leather, nylon with Velcro fasteners.

Bondage Hammocks

Bondage hammocks or beds with built-in cuffs or Velcro restraints. These may also take the form of specialized bed sheets (linen) which can be slipped over any regular bed frame for BDSM play. Bondage beds for BDSM can be made to order.

Spreader Bars

Spreaders consist of a long bar with restraints at both ends. They can be used on the wrists, thighs, ankles, and even neck to wrists. Four-way spreaders are shaped like an “X”, locks the wrists and ankles together all at once. Spreader bars can also be suspended to the ceiling, designed to hold anybody hanging from it. These are also referred to as suspension bars.

Cages & Swings

For more adventurous BDSM play, bondage cages and swings take in one person. Made of metal, wood or leather, some are custom made with compartmentalized cage doors which can be opened or locked. Makes a perfect addition to the BDSM dungeon.

Blindfolds, Masks and other BDSM toys

Other BDSM gear to complete the bondage experience are blindfolds, masks, locks, ropes, duct tape, chains, bondage straps, ball gags, and much more.

Spanking Toys

Very popular BDSM toys for spanking are whips, canes, floggers, paddles, crops, and straps among others. Whips, canes and floggers deliver stinging sensations while paddles and crops deliver intense slaps. View spanking toys. Talking about movement, in our other post we spoke about bullet vibrators – check it out here.


Ticklers makes a good introduction to BDSM play. Ticklers as soft as feathers for erotic tickling sensations. Or made of fine chains which tickles or stings when whipped.

Chastity Belts

Chastity belts for BDSM play are designed for both men and women. Male chastity devices locks the waist, cock and balls while the female version locks the crotch area. Both versions come with adjustable and lockable variants. So don’t lose the key.

Electrical Toys

For an electrifying BDSM experience, these electrical probes delivers sparks of charged electricity similar to a lightning bolt. When held near the skin, little sparks jump across the charged rod to deliver tingling, buzzing, or cutting sensations. When in contact, it delivers a mild to medium electric zap. Waving it around is as powerful an emotional tool as with using it. With proper use, these are actually harmless. Comes in battery or AC powered variants.

Other S&M Toys

Other torture toys for BDSM play are clamps, tweezers, spiked gloves, heat masks, ice bags, weights with hooks, spiked wheels.

A Guide To The Different Types Of Anal Toys

Anal toys are designed to stimulate the nerve endings of the rectum, either on the surface or by penetration. They have a flanged base or comes attached with a string to prevent the toy from slipping all the way in. Anal toys create more intense orgasms by stimulating the prostate glands in both the male and female.

The anus is very receptive to stimulation and can be extremely satisfying for some. Some people may orgasm with anal play alone while others may require clitoral or vaginal stimulation together. Many men like the prostate stimulation anal toys provide.

Whichever way it is, you’ll need to go slow and use lots of lube with anal toys. They differ in function from the vagina which is well suited for penetration and has its own lubricating glands. The anus has no natural lubrication. Use water-based lubricants such as AstroGlide or Anal Eze, as oil and petroleum-based lubricants can break down latex materials. All the mentioned water-based lubricants also work with mini bullet vibrator.  Once inserted, anal toys should not be switched with the vagina as this can transfer bacteria unless it is properly washed.

Types of Anal Toys (including bullet vibrators)

Anal Beads

Anal beads make a good introduction to anal sex for beginners. Typically anal beads consist of smooth round balls connected together with a strong nylon or cotton string with a ring attached at the end of the string. The beads vary in size from a small pearl to a golf ball. They’re not as hard as golf balls, as some are made of soft jelly, while the firmer ones are made of plastic, rubber, and silicone.

With lots of lubrication, the beads are inserted into the anus and slowly pulled out during orgasm. The movement stimulates the inner and outer sphincter muscles which can cause intense arousal. Some are stimulated more on the way in and others when popping them out during an orgasm.

It is not advisable to share anal beads because of the small crevices which can easily trap bacteria. Additionally, anal beads using cotton strings should be replaced after every use as cotton cannot be sterilized. Go for nylon or silicone instead.

Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are anal toys designed for insertion into the anus. They are meant to stay in with twisted motions rather than pushed in and out. Basically shaped like an “A”, they have a flanged base, comes in a variety of shapes, sizes, material, and vibrating options.

Anal Probes & bullet vibrators

Anal toys designed to be inserted into the anus for in-out motion. Similar to a vibrator, they have a phallic design with a wide range of shapes, sizes, material, and vibrating options. One of the most common used vibrator is the mini bullet vibrator by love it right. Some are ribbed with small concentric circles so they allow the anus to contract and expand as the probe is moved in and out.

Inflatable Anal Toys

Comes with a small hand pump, the tip is inserted and then inflated as it is filled with air. Serves to vary the pressure and sensations progressively.